December 6, 2010

Fast Times at Woodside High

Filed under: Media,parenting,Videos,Youth Ministry — Neil @ 3:00 pm

Very interesting videom from the NY Times on teens, technology, parenting & schools.


November 4, 2010

Parenting Links

Filed under: parenting,Parents — Neil @ 7:14 pm

2 good articles on parenting that I posted to our Student Ministry’s Facebook & Twitter accounts earlier in the week:

October 21, 2010

Relationship Before Rules

Filed under: parenting,Parents,Youth Ministry — Neil @ 6:00 am

Last night we began a new series, TEN, on the Ten Commandments.  Last night’s key point was “Relationship Before Rules” as we introduced the series.  The commandments were established after the relationship had already been initiated.  The rules were the framework for the relationship.

Mike Brister, my boss & youth ministry veteran, frequently says (I give him credit since he can’t remember where he 1st heard it):

Rules Without Relationship ALWAYS = Rebellion

10 years of youth ministry has taught me that he’s exactly right.  Regardless of the situation if teens have a relationship w/ the adult they will respect the rules.  If not prepare for the worse.

Parents, for some great insight from Jim Burns on the importance of nurturing relationships w/ your kids even in the midst of discipline watch this video.

August 23, 2010

Facebook Places Privacy Issues

Filed under: culture,Media,parenting,Uncategorized,Youth Ministry — Neil @ 10:16 am

Last week I began working on a post concerning Facebook Places.  I was looking for information primarily for parents so that they could help their teen make wise choices regarding sharing their physical location w/ all of their “friends.”  In the midst of my research I discovered Adam Mclane’s post on the same topic.  I’ve copied & pasted from him the info regarding how to adjust your privacy settings, but I suggest you go & read his entire blog post.

How to Adjust Privacy Settings

Step one: Go to the Privacy Settings tab in your account settings. Here’s the link. This is an overview of all of your general settings.

Step two: Click on “Customize Settings.

Step three: Scroll down to “Places I Check In To” and click “Customize.” This will bring up a box where you can select exactly who you want to see where you check in at. If you just want to play with it to get used to it, but don’t want other people to see it, change it to “Only Me.” Changing it to “Only Me” is as private as it gets if you want to check in places. You’ll notice you can also block specific people from seeing where you check in at. Think about who you want to block specifically and list them there. When you are done click “Save Setting” and you are done with this step.

Step four: Enable or disable the “Here Now” feature. If this whole thing creeps you out, I’d suggest disabling this setting. But also keep in mind that if you want any of the cool freebies that retailers/restaurants may come up with for checking it, you’ll need to keep this enabled. (I’ve gotten plenty of free stuff by checking in via Yelp and even Twitter.)

Step five: Scroll down to “Friends can check me in to Places.This is probably the feature that will get the most people in trouble and will make people the most angry. Say you sit down for lunch at work with a co-worker. You check in and you tag that person as being with you. Now, if you didn’t have that persons permission, all of their friends know that they have checked in at a place because that check in posts to their wall. Also, if they haven’t adjusted their settings in step four, now anyone on Facebook at that location can know they are there. On the other hand, if you feel good about your selections on step three than this is no big deal.

Done. You can go back to your profile, having adjusted your Places privacy settings to your liking.

If you’d like to watch a video from facebook describing much of this same information click here.

August 4, 2010

How Smart Are Your Parents?

Filed under: parenting,Parents — Neil @ 7:00 am

from This Is Indexed

May 13, 2010

This Generation

Filed under: culture,Media,parenting,Uncategorized,Videos,Youth Ministry — Neil @ 4:12 pm

produced by Student Life

March 13, 2010

Internet Filters

Filed under: culture,Media,parenting,Uncategorized — Neil @ 7:00 am

I’ve received several questions lately about internet filters & to recommend 1 for families.  I did some research (googling & twitter) this week in search of something to recommend.

Safe Eyes – it’s produced by & recommended by Focus on the Family & Dave Ramsey (as long as you pay cash for it :)).  It’s pricetag is $50 for a 1 year subscription.

Family Safety – free option from Microsoft; Tim Steevens says his family uses it.  It looks to do most of what Safe Eyes provides.

X3 Watch – a free software from XXX Church; great for accountability (emails any questionable site you visited to your accountability partner); they recommend Safe Eyes for further protection

March 11, 2010

Geotagging & Facebook

Filed under: parenting,Youth Ministry — Neil @ 7:36 pm

Facebook will soon (next month) allow your status updates to be linked to your geographic location.  Twitter has had this available for a while.  FourSquare & Loopt are the 2 most popular social networking geotagging applications.  However, neither have the 400 million users that Facebook has.

Geotagging being added to Facebook makes me pretty cautious.  It’s scary to me that teenagers would post their physical location to all of their “friends” (or even to the entire world depending on their facebook security settings).

For more on geotagging & facebook check out this NY Times articleThree Facebook Settings Every User Should Check Now (also from the NY Times) is a must for teens & parents.

November 25, 2009

Youth Culture

Filed under: Media,parenting,Parents,Videos,Youth Ministry — Neil @ 7:00 am

1 of the very best youth ministry resources for keeping up w/ the youth culture is the Center for Parent & Youth Understanding.  It’s weekly email newsletter is the best youth ministry newsletter that arrives in my inbox.

Here’s an interview w/ Walt Mueller, CPYU president & founder, on youth culture 101,” narcissism, and the Apostle Paul’s approach to culture in Acts 17:

August 18, 2009

How Parents Can Impact the Church Drop Out

Filed under: parenting,Parents,Youth Ministry — Neil @ 6:00 am

I highly suggest reading this article by Sam Rainer.  He gives some great practical advice for parents of teens.

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