October 29, 2010

Friday Five

Filed under: Friday Five — Neil @ 9:40 am
  1. Four Roads by Seth Godin
  2. To Those Who Hold Sway by Ben Arment
  3. Business Models in the Church by Adam McLane
  4. Honor Goes Down by Ben Arment
  5. Change and Its Constituents (there are 2, and both are a problem) by Seth Godin

October 28, 2010

Student Ministry Videos

Filed under: Videos,Youth Ministry — Neil @ 3:54 pm

We’ve given our intern (follow him on Twitter @jvickers813) the assignment of creating videos for our student ministry each week.  We’ll be using 1 of them for the welcome in our student worship.  Others will be random stuff he comes up w/ to promote events or connect w/ teens.

Here’s the 1st 2 videos:


October 25, 2010

Better Isn’t Always Better

Filed under: leadership,Youth Ministry — Neil @ 6:00 am

Better isn’t always better if you are doing the wrong thing.

There are some tasks that I do each day/quarter/year.  Each time becoming more proficient & efficient.  However, if I’m doing the wrong thing, getting better at it isn’t really better.

What are we doing in youth ministry “better” than we were 10 years ago, but that we need to stop?
What are you getting better at that you need to stop?

October 24, 2010

Weekend Review

Filed under: Weekend Review — Neil @ 9:26 pm
  • Stayed at Lake Tia-K’hata on Friday night.  It won’t ever be confused w/ a “nice” resort, but its a nice place to get away.  There’s nothing to do which makes it a nice place to visit for a day or so.  We ate their breakfast buffet on Saturday morning.  I made up for that by jogging the nature trail around the lake.
  • Are “nature trail” & “path through the woods that no one has cared for since 1973” synonyms?
  • Good lunch at Central Station Grill.  It’s become Amanda’s favorite place to eat in Starkville.  The chicken nachos are always a good choice..
  • Made a visit to Boardtown Bikes.  David couldn’t have been more helpful.  They’ve got bikes that cost more than several cars that we’ve bought.  If I decide to “invest” in a street bike I’ll likely buy 1 from David.
  • Good time visiting w/ some of my former teens who are now in school at State.
  • How did the Saints get this bad this quick?

October 22, 2010


Filed under: Uncategorized — Neil @ 9:51 am

Last night, Amanda’s school hosted Family Read Night.  Kindergarten & 1st graders came w/ their parents to hear teachers (& teacher’s husbands who couldn’t say no when asked to read because their wives do much more volunteering @ their job than they do at their wife’s job) read books w/ few words & a lot of pictures.

A few things I learned:

  1. I don’t have the voice you need to read to 5 & 6 year olds.
  2. Glad to live in a school district that cares about children & families.
  3. Sad that so few dad’s attend school activities w/ their children.

October 21, 2010

We need more Ethel’s

Filed under: Youth Ministry — Neil @ 12:00 pm

I’d take a church full of 92 year old Ethels.

Relationship Before Rules

Filed under: parenting,Parents,Youth Ministry — Neil @ 6:00 am

Last night we began a new series, TEN, on the Ten Commandments.  Last night’s key point was “Relationship Before Rules” as we introduced the series.  The commandments were established after the relationship had already been initiated.  The rules were the framework for the relationship.

Mike Brister, my boss & youth ministry veteran, frequently says (I give him credit since he can’t remember where he 1st heard it):

Rules Without Relationship ALWAYS = Rebellion

10 years of youth ministry has taught me that he’s exactly right.  Regardless of the situation if teens have a relationship w/ the adult they will respect the rules.  If not prepare for the worse.

Parents, for some great insight from Jim Burns on the importance of nurturing relationships w/ your kids even in the midst of discipline watch this video.

October 20, 2010

Happy 25th Birthday Nintendo

Filed under: Uncategorized — Neil @ 11:00 am

How did I miss this on the 18th?  Nintendo turned 25 years old.  I still remeber Christmas morning of 1987 when my parents gave me my Nintendo.  Beating Mario w/out dying was a monumental occasion for me.

RBI Baseball & Tecmo Bowl (Bo Jackson has still not been tackled) are still the best 2 video games of all time.

Did anyone have the robot?

Run From Isolation

Filed under: Uncategorized — Neil @ 6:00 am

Proverbs 18:1
Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.

October 19, 2010

Krave Conference

Filed under: Uncategorized — Neil @ 10:00 am

January 14-15 our student ministry will be hosting Krave Conference.  Last year we had approximately 20 churches participate with us.  If you’d like to learn more about Krave or register your group visit

You can follow Krave on Twitter or on Facebook.

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